The Narcissist is a Chameleon (Song)

Culture Club - Karma Chameleon

The narcissist described as a chameleon.

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In this video the con artist stealing the jewellery, stands for his narcissistic ex-lover.

"chameleon"-A narcissist is like a social chameleon, because of the way he adapts to his target (or to a new/different environment). The narcissist mirrors the target, pretending to be like him or her and creating the illusion of being the perfect soul mate. This secures them a lot of positive supply. 
 A narcissist takes character traits of his former victims and makes them his own. 

"Karma" -The narcissist is creating karma for himself that will catch up with him.

In this song he throws the con artist -the narcissist- out of his life and parties on. 

You will eventually be able to "party on" in your life, once you have taken the time to recover and heal from the narcissistic abuse. The healing process is quite a journey. While the narcissist will stay stuck repeating the same mistakes, because they are not working on resolving their issues. Instead they are causing pain and suffering to other people and negative karma for themselves.

What the narcissist takes is not jewelry, but narcissistic supply (positive and negative), character  traits, other benefits, and the victims love - without returning it.

 "a man without convictions"-Narcissists don't have a firm identity of their own and change their character and their interests like a chameleon adapting to the surroundings.  Lacking his own substance, he takes characteristics of various former victims as his own. 

"loving would be easy if your colors were like my dream"- The narcissists true colors are very different than the dream, image or illusion that he creates. The illusion is a con act with the purpose of extracting narcissistic supply  from the target (and others around him).

Lyrics:

Dessert loving in your eyes all the way

If I listen to your lies, would you say

I'm a man without conviction

I'm a man who doesn't know

How to sale a contradiction?

You come and go, you come and go

"a contradiction"- This is when the victim has to hold two opposite views of the same person in his mind at the same time.

The narcissist causes something called cognitive dissonance with his contradictory (sweet and mean) behavior during the devalue phase. 

"you come and go"-Is a short way of describing the abusive cycle of the narcissist:

Idealisation phase, devalue phase, replace, discard, hoover, cycle repeat. 

During the devalue phase the behaviour flip flops back and forth between: idealise, devalue. idealise, devalue, etc. until it reaches the replace and discard or the victim decides to leave.

The two main ways a narcissist interacts is either to idealise or to devalue. Come and go.

Narcissists are masters at creating abandonment fears in their target.

If a narcissist feels "criticised" (narcissistic injury), they might leave, or just stay away for a time to patch up the wound caused by the "criticism". A narcissist feels criticized and wounded by things that would not bother a normal person, so this can be very bewildering to the normal person.

A narcissist treats people like objects, in the song, when he sings "you come and go" you can see them pushing a person into a basket, as if he were an object that can be stored away until later (discard) and then taken out again (hoover), when the narcissist feels like it or is in need of some narcissistic supply.

Karma, karma, karma, karma, karma chameleon

You come and go, you come and go

Loving would be easy if your colors were like my dreams

Red, gold, and green, red, gold, and green

Didn't you hear your wicked words every day

And you used to be so sweet I heard you say

That my love was an addiction

When we cling, our love is strong

When you go, you're gone forever

You string along, you string along

"Didn't you hear your wicked words every day"  - Emotional abuse during the devalue phase. 

And you used to be so sweet I heard you say" - The things he used to like about the victim, he now no longer values. (Devalue)

"My love was an addiction" - The narcissist, like the psychopath gets the target emotionally addicted to the emotional high and intense positive feelings he creates at the beginning of the relationship and the smaller emotional highs later on during the relationship. This is the foundation for the later abuse and one of the things that keeps the victim around for longer than he/she should be staying and enduring emotional abuse. The narcissist can then treat the target like a drug addict and spoon-feeds him small amounts of "love" to keep him around and not leaving. The narcissist does not want the target to leave because he wants to keep on extracting positive and negative supply from the target. The narcissist wants the victim to stay, even when the victim is being abused. 
What is a king without subjects?

"You string along" - Narcissists are masters at keeping hope alive, so the target stays around, waiting and hoping and ultimately putting up with worse and worse behavior.

Karma, karma, karma, karma, karma chameleon

You come and go, you come and go

Loving would be easy if your colors were like my dreams

Red, gold, and green, red, gold, and green

Every day is like survival

You're my lover, not my rival

Every day is like survival

You're my lover, not my rival

" you're my lover not my rival"- Narcissists are very competitive. They are jealous of the positive traits, which they initially admired their partner for. So they may try to imitate these traits and pretend to have the same qualities and at the same time put their partner's achievements down, or try to stop the partner from achieving things or developing and enjoying their talents. 

"every day is like survival"-The relationship turns into a kind of fight between 
the victim (for reality, truth, freedom from manipulation and from projection, for self esteem, self worth, happiness etc.)
and the narcissist (for narcissistic supply and for keeping his false grandiose self image in tact. To have someone to act as their scape goat.)

The narcissist is addicted to narcissistic supply and falls apart if he doesn't get it. This is important to know, because this is the narcissists archillis heal !

First the singer is the only one who sees through him (and is outside on the boat, isolated) and later everyone else does, too.
A victim of narcissistic abuse may well be the only one who can see the abusive nature of this person. Especially the covert narcissist can be extremely hard to spot. The narcissist carefully cultivates a good as gold character facade. 

It is important for the narcissist to keep up this facade as it enables him to get future narcissistic supply. Future victims would otherwise run for the hills, if they could be successfully warned by previous victims. The narcissist must avoid this (using slander of the previous victim and by upholding the facade). If he fails at this he may loose future or present narcissistic supply.

The singer just waits and eventually the con artist gets seen through by everyone else. 

In reality unfortunately it doesn't always happen like that as the narcissist tries to turn public opinion against the victim by slandering the victim, while the victim is completely  dazed and shocked and can't believe the person who was supposed to love him and who seemed so good and kind would do such a thing. The narcissist has no empathy and not much conscience.

Narcissists love to play the vicitm, while villanising the true victim.

On the other hand their behavior is likely to catch up with them in the long run: How many people can they hurt, before they get seen through and they have to live with the consequences of their actions ? 

In the song they throw the con artist off the ship. They are relieved and happy and party on. 

Going "no contact" or using the "gray rock" technique. if you can't go no contact, is what is generally recommended. Then you can start to recover and enjoy life.

Song written by George Alan O'dowd, Jonathan Aubrey Moss, Michael Emile Craig, Roy Ernest Hay, Phil Pickett • Copyright © Universal Music Publishing Group, BMG Rights Management US, LLC

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