Discard

Narcissists discard at the worst possible time and in the worst possible way. If they can leave a hook in you, so that you are and stay devastated, then they feel good, significant and powerful. This hook, the memory of the idealization phase, the shock of the discard and trying to find answers also leaves the victim open for a hoover. The narcissist will deny the target any closure.

Kim Saeed - Why Narcissists Discard You at The Worst Possible Times

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Assc Direct - Narcissist: The Purpose of Discarding

Assc Direct explains that the purpose of discarding is to trigger the effects, so that the abuser can begin to manoeuvre their way into your mind, to begin the deeper, more advanced, controlling parts of their abuse.
This video talks about the manipulation and the emotional abuse method of using the discard as a way to get the victim to feel defective.

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Assc Direct - Further Indept Details On Narcissistic Discard

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Gloria Gaynor - I will Survive

Song about resisting the narcissist hoover after a very painful and destructive discard and deciding to go "no contact".
Lyrics: "Weren't you the one who tried to break me with good bye ?!" 
"Now I'm saving all my loving for someone who's loving me!"

To fully understand how a narcissist discards, read this page by Thrive after Abuse: "How to get closure after a relationship with a narcissist." http://www.thriveafterabuse.com/closure/. It will give you some helpful information about how a breakup with a narcissist is different to a normal breakup and how to best deal with a breakup with a narcissist.

The Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse

This cycle of abuse diagram is from the webpage Thrive after abuse, by Dana Morningstar

http://www.thriveafterabuse.com/cycle-of-a-narcissistic-relationship/

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